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Pleasure comes in many forms. Where does pleasure intersect with sexuality for you?  Our five senses are the building blocks for how we experience the world. From this as a starting point, here are 5 ways to get more pleasure in your life (exponentially more in various combinations, but we’re keeping it simple for now). Let’s  take a little pleasure tour!

It’s worth noting though, that the fastest overall route to pleasure is self acceptance and curiosity!  So we’ll start with an invitation to …

I got my first tattoo about 5 years ago and it marked a turning point in my life. I had researched designs and their significance and was happy with my choice. It is smaller than a quarter, located on my inner left wrist and easily covered by my watch band. I was catching up with an old friend and upon showing it to her, she asked if it was a “gateway tattoo”. The comment surprised me as I never really thought of myself as a “tattoo person”. I dismissed the question thinking I was “one-and-done”…

Milestone Shmilestone

A couple of months ago, the date passed that would have marked my 30th wedding anniversary. We enjoyed no Pearl Anniversary celebration though, because we didn’t make it… We divorced a couple of years short of that milestone. Why is a failed marriage attached to so much shame, blame, gossip, judgement, and ostracizing? My version of “The fairytale” (you know the one- happy couple, suburban home, 2 kids, dog…) didn’t have the societally scripted “happy ending”, so that’s su…

I Found My Happy Place

The past few years have been trying on us all. I have had some personal ups and downs, and found myself wondering who post-divorce me was going to be. Curious about what she was going to write in the next chapter.  

I took some long, hard looks under rocks and around dark corners. I have realized that we are at our strongest when we embrace all aspects of ourselves. The best and most aligned decisions and actions come from that center and being “real”, even though it may…